Keeping Your Man From Getting Wedding Overload
By jackieandtom | posted on January 26, 2012 at 1:56pm
At one point or another, I think most of us brides are guilty of occasionally overloading our guys with wedding info. Its that defining moment where you are gabbing, and slowly you begin to see his transition from paying attention, to zoning out. He’ll tell you to, “Choose whatever you’d like, I just want you to be happy.” While what he is really saying is, “I love you, but any more wedding talk and my head is going to explode.”
In all seriousness, I think nothing of searching on pinterest for wedding hairstyles and DYI projects at midnight. For the past nine months, I’ve looked at photo, after photo, after photo of wedding gowns, bridesmaid dresses and table arrangements, etc. When you keep bringing up wedding discussion five days a week to your fiancé, it can be a bit much. Chances are if you are sharing all that information with your man…he’s on overload.
So here rests the million dollar question, how do you plan a wedding involving your fiancé with the particulars, while not talking about it in excess? Well I wish I had the whole answer, but here are a few things I’ve noticed over the throughout my wedding planning:
•Food talk, is good talk. Guys want to know the food options, they want to help choose the menu, and they are probably pretty excited about trying it when it comes to the tasting session. For most guys, this is probably also the case for alcohol and music. Enough said.
•Leave the girly stuff with the girls. Ribbons, buttons, flowers, dresses, bows and bubbles are probably not things he’s overly excited about. Not to say that he doesn’t care, but rather than having your bubble burst with an underwehlemed excitement level from him, stick to talking about it with your pals, sisters, mom and mother-in-law to be.
•Don’t beat the dead horse. If you’ve discussed things like colors and cake flavors a couple times, stick with the plan. Although I’m extremely guilty of this, don’t change your mind. You picked those things for a reason, stick with it you silly girl!
•What you think is special may be different than what he thinks is special. Talk to him about what he really wants from the start, this way you aren’t over analyzing things with him that you can just do yourself. Things you think may be special to spend time on like the shutterfly guest book and the DIY card box may compete for planning time of what he would want to spend time on like the music play list and the tuxedo options. There is a lot that goes into planning, so make sure you’re on the same page!
For other examples, of wedding overload, watch this video! Please excuse the title of the video, but it is a hilarious example of some of the things we brides do to cause the stress. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ut8kwaKvZc0
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